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Often we are so quick to judge others. When we do so we are most probably speaking from our wound.
When we speak from our wound, frequently we are trying to prove that we are someone; we are frightened of disappearing and of not being recognised; we are frightened of loss. There can be an unconscious anger or need to dominate and control others in the tone of our voice; there can be also an urgency or compulsion coming from an inner disturbance or anguish.
We must not be surprised if we speak from our wound and defence mechanisms and judge others too quickly. That is our broken humanity. Each one of us carries within us wounds and fragilities; we can be quickly frightened by other people and their ideas; we all have difficulty truly listening to others and appreciating them.
However, we must all work on our emotional life and deepen our spiritual life in order to be more centered in truth, in love, in God, and in order to speak and act out of that centre and not to judge others.
We can only truly accept others as they are, and forgive them, when we discover that we are truly accepted by God as we are and forgiven by Him.
Jean Vanier
Community and Growth
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